Wednesday, April 6, 2011

In Dream...!


IN DREAM…!

A fine morning
I woke up and
There was sun shining
On my face
Like trying to bring me
Back to my senses and
Smiling mischievously,
There were birds
Singing with a
Kind of euphony
Capable of making
Any heart younger than ever,
There were cool breezes
All around making
The morning perfect
With its coolness
Every touch seemed to
Have a kind of shyness
Like a teenage girl,
But still there was
Something missing
In a kind of blankness
Felt that I was alone
On the bed
With a note beneath the pillow
Written, good-bye darling!
Just to realize
My love is not with me anymore
Dream has been over
Now, she has gone, and
Am feeling like to go back
 In dream…!

BY: - PRAVEEN PARASAR
DATE:-31/03/2011


Friday, April 1, 2011

BEING A WOMAN...! - (Woman Part-II)


                                 (WOMEN-II)
                         BEING A WOMAN…!
                                 
Being a woman is no doubt one of the most eternal and divine feeling for any living soul. Many of you might ask why I started this article with such a partial line, just be patient and go through the entire article, I am sure you too would agree with me. When this topic came in my mind, there was a state of confusion in my mind about the topic, and I am just about to explore that confusion.
Coming back to the point of being a woman, is a kind of painful gift to any soul that they accept with some questions in their mind always. They have been framed the most respected and powerful entity of this physical as well as virtual eternal world but at the same time they are the one who always remained at the receiving end of any kind of consequences (Again similar to my earlier articles I am going to take Hinduism as the basis of any reference used in this article).  Let it be the start of the world when shraddha became the victim of Manu’s lust for era as well as his anger to ancient stories of Hindu culture where even goddess Sati has to sacrifice her life after failing to get whom she loved to just because of some rivalry between his father and Her love lord Shiva. In addition, we all know the history is full of examples where they remained the sufferer.  Moreover, these examples are there even when it is the word ‘Mother’ that takes the highest order in the archive and not ‘Father’ and this shows the importance of being a woman and anybody should have hardly any doubt that this is never partial as they have characters such as kindness to the maximum. Even if we look at Hindu culture, we would, find that there is large number of female god than the male gods and they have a very important place out there better to say an edge over the male gods. Even we call them in pair and we call female name first let it be Radhe-Krishna, Sita-Ram etc. these are just some points to add value to the topic. Very interestingly, few days before I was going through a face book update saying we admire and give them respect only because we fear from their destructive power. I wonder till what extent that is true as in our list of goddesses we got every form of them starting from angry n destructive goddesses like Durga and Kali to very kind and loving goddesses such as Parvathi, Lakshmi, Saraswati and to most extent Hindu culture never pictured their destructive part as their main representation rather framing a kind and loving part has always been a priority apart from sometimes showing that they also got that character with themselves that can take revenge for anything.  In addition, this is happening in every period whether we look at stories of gods to stories of different arena. In Treta, Sita has to suffer because of rivalry between Ram and Ravana, where as Urmila; unfortunately whom most of us never gave any importance or point to talk about and surprisingly that is what even great writers did, apart from Shri Hajari Prasad Dwedi writting an article on her!, gave sacrifice of her newly married life just because her husband wanted that. Later we would find Ahilya who had to suffer just because his husband Saint Gautam had some doubt or misunderstanding. Moreover, this lasted with one of the worst decision by a god like entity Ram to his wife Sita to go through a fire-exam to prove her holy.  In Dwaper we have Devki who had to sacrifice her seven Childs only because god was going to born at number eight. Then there is Draupadi who went on to marry five brothers all together just because their mother; unknowingly, ordered them to distribute whatever they have brought. These are just some examples when women power was almost at its peak and they have a lot of interference in the ruling and society.  And this is modern period also known as Kaliyuga, that saw some of the worst ever made customs or forced rules one could face including sati-pratha, in which girl had to burn along with her dead husband( girl’s wish didn’t matter at that time), what a terrible, horrible custom but this era also saw some of the great changes in position of women in society giving them far more chances to participate in different processes whether it’s political, personal, professional. It also produced some of the greatest women warriors and politicians of all time and that consist of names like Mother of shiva ji, maa Jeejabai, Lakshmibai and many more. However, the basic factor remained the same even after such considerable amount of growth in their participation and influence in society, the general perception about their role remained same keeping their presence limited to few names and never let it become a bigger cloud to take over the sky filled with manned stars.
Today if we look around us, we would find time has changed a lot and women are in much more better situation than ever. Their role has gone beyond the border of line divided by their male counterparts to a new global space. Now they are ruler, they are celebrity, they are educated, and they are in every field, what remained even dream places to be for their male counterparts. Today they are independent, they are confident; they are what they want to be, not afraid of anyone and their image can be summarized as focused, confident, and smart. They seem to be very clear about what they want and what they need to do to fulfill that and it sounds really true (great too!) but is it the real picture? Have they really come over the so old established image of a woman?  Have they taken over the image of ‘made to be ruled by male’? Most of you would say Yes! Moreover, why not, looking at the current situation of them it seems well right. However, the point of concern as well as confusion is whether this so-called gradual change and picture perfect situation is truly perfect or it is just an illusion over the reality. If we try to look closely, we would find that today even women seem to be in a state of confusion about the same at various places. At one side, a woman is considered as a smart and confident and praised for making their presence in society but at the same time, they start losing the support and faith of their family in them. They are supposed to do well outside as that would raise the prestige of family in the society and relatives as well as at the same time they are expected to do all the work of home whether it’s cooking, washing or whatever. Does not it sound too much? I know many of you would disagree with this but if exceptions are left this is the real picture. Those confident and smart independent women start getting an image of too modern that cannot stay in a family and the kind of patience they require to overcome the biased and lusty intentions they face at their workplaces makes it even worse. And not only lusty intention that makes it worse for them at workplace but kinds of double talk that they always has to listen, offers of giving preferences over others if they would agree to show positive sign to their bosses and much more. They start getting an image that they are available for everyone out there to have fun and sex, what a tragic confusing and down time situation for a woman! Looking at the rise in the stat of sexual abuse and cases of harassments, it becomes even clearer. Today women are not safe even they are living in most advanced cities of the country let it be smaller towns. Moreover, what is worst that surprisingly they are not even safe in their home sighting a rising number of incidents against themby their relatives only. Even if a woman tries to balance her professional life with their family lives, they go through to face many hurdles all the way irrespective of their effort to make it better. In addition, this becomes even worst if she start getting success more than her male counterpart getting that same ego of being a male and to rule women; this has remained a challenge for males to accept that a woman married to her can be better than he can. Moreover, this is situation for a long time better to say from the start of civilization itself; or start of humanization. And coming back to confusion point, what is worst that one side even if they are praised for being confident and success in their profession another side they are the one who are supposed to maintain a family starting from taking care of need of every family member to kids and most importantly her male counterpart. Moreover the peak of this reaches to a point when she can’t even escape to sleep without fulfilling her husband’s expectation of making love, does not matter she do it willingly or forcibly. What a tragic and upsetting moment for a woman.
Well, this is just some example of problems and confusions faced by a woman in society today and can only be explained better by a woman who has gone through all this. It is just a try to summaries some of the facts that I have experienced and learnt through some of very brave women and I really admire them a lot for all their effort  to overcome all these hurdles to reach deserved place. Hope this confusing situation in this so open, modern and advanced society would not stop them to get all the success a woman deserve and will let them reach to the peak of their capability.
To be continue…

                           BY: - PRAVEEN PARASAR
                       DATE: - 31/03/2011

Tuesday, March 8, 2011

What If...!


                  WHAT IF…!

When I remember
The moments
I spent
With you
In your arms
Looking
In your eyes, Blue
Like a sea,
Watching
The way
You used to smile
Like a child, careless,
The way
You used to shy
Like a newlywed bride,
The way
You used to cry
Like a kid for a toy,
The way
You used to look
Into my eyes
Full of love and passion,
The way
You used to try
To make me smile
By silly jokes,
The way
You used to make me
Love you!
I just smile
And think
What If you would have
Never came in my life?

                         BY:-PRAVEEN PARASAR   
                DATE:-07/03/2011




Friday, February 25, 2011

(Why) I Do Not Miss You!


(Why) I Do Not Miss You!

Me without you
Like a Body
Without soul,
Like a Flower
Without scent,
Like a Sea
Without water,
Like a Sky
Without stars,
Like a tree
Without leaves,
But, even then
(Why) I am not able
To feel you
As mine,
(Why) I am not able
To remember the scent
Of Your body,
(Why) I am not able
To remember the taste
Of Your lips,
(Why) I am not able
To feel the warmth
Of your breathe,
(Why) I am not able
To feel the beats
Of Your heart,
(Why) even then
I do not miss you!

                            BY-PRAVEEN PARASAR
                            DATE-25/02/2011

Wednesday, February 2, 2011

MYSELF WITH ME


                      MYSELF WITH ME
I love it
I hate it
I admire it
I beat it
I care for it
I laugh with it
I cry with it
I walk with it
I sit with it
I play with it
I eat with it
I drink with it
I dance with it
I sing with it
I sleep with it
I dream with it
I do whatever
I want to do, with it
Because, it’s mine
And would remain with me forever
Because, it’s not going to leave me ever
As everyone else does in life
Because, ‘it’ is no one but
Myself with me.

                  DATE: - 31/01/2011
                  NAME: - PRAVEEN PARASAR

Sunday, January 30, 2011

INDIA 2020 & EDUCATIONAL SYSTEM - DREAM vs. REALITY


  INDIA 2020 & EDUCATIONAL SYSTEM
                                                     DREAM vs. REALITY
                                                                                                                                               

INDIA 2020, a book by our honorable ex-president Dr. A.P.J.Kalam made a lot of waves when came in market. He was among few of them who felt that India can become superpower by next two decade if the same growth rate continues, and of course the way he explained this in his book left no doubt in anyone’s mind that if it is not possible. After all we got everything starting from low cost manpower to resources to our so world famous intelligent young minds (engineers specially!).
Now, I would like to come to the last point of the first paragraph and that is young intelligent minds. As a part of that same community of young minds, I have some concerns with that. Is this so called back up with the help of which we are looking forward to make this country a super power really that strong which can make this dream come true? What I feel is that with present day educational system, NO!!!
Most of you must be wondering why I am saying so, when our young generation is doing great in their respective jobs and work, growth rate of India is better than China(around 9%) and everything seems well on course. Fine, I will present some facts and conditions on the basis of which I am denying to accept this so called image of growing India.

As a fresh engineering graduate, I would like to start this discussion from the bench of professional students. Just few years back before the ghost of IT bombed the market, I remember there used to be just few of the engineering branch and most of them were of core engineering subjects. The young engineers were a much respected community and they were supposed to work in their respective field of engineering. In the society they were seen with lot of anticipation and expectation and every second family having a daughter in their family used to dream them to be there son-in-law (although it was really funny sometimes). If we go back to some more years we will find that a similar status was availed by even science graduates (before engineering started to rule!). Unfortunately arts never remained a subject of much anticipation and always got a status of subject to be studied by comparatively weaker students or who were kind of out of society person (Tragic, that’s all I can say!). This was the time of 1980s when money was not everything and status and respect was something that was of top priorities of the society, but somewhere time was changing rapidly and the ‘money matters’ was a new IN thing. When IT started to make it big in the market and started giving job to every unemployed student, it became a big favorite to everyone. Not only because it was coming as the solution of the big time problem of India, Unemployment but also because salary packages it came with were too attractive. And in a few span of time India became the favorite place for outsourcing in the world and getting into an IT job became a kind of dream to every student (and parent’s too, damn!).

Well, to some extent this should not  be a point to worry, after all it was the boom in the IT that gave India it’s long time due place during 80s in the world platform. But what was the silent backfire is that in the blind race of this so called IT, everyone got so busy that everyone forgot that apart IT there are some other important factors and sectors too that need to be looked very seriously and producing and preparing a strong bench of science and engineering graduates is one of them. Now, my question is if 70% of engineers produced today are going to join IT, no matter what branch did they study, 20% moves to abroad for better higher education then how can we be assure that with having that 10% of total young mind India is going to be the superpower within next decade. Recently one report came in the newspaper that said that average expense over a student by our most prestigious institute is around 2.5-3 Lakh per annum. Well, the report was over another issue but what it shows that an institute like IIT spends lakhs of money on a student during those four years, teachers and professors put all their hard work to prepare best of them, students too keep on doing their homework, assignments, project etc. and after four year of all these goes into vain when instead of making any use of it by joining any company of their core they prefer some IT company or rather go to complete their MBA because it will fetch them even higher salary, may be highest of available. What is the use of all those efforts then in preparing an engineer? Today we see a lot of reports showing engineers should be barred from attending commission exams, there should be higher cut-offs for them in  management admissions etc. and of course this shows the negative impact and insecurity it’s planting in other young minds who couldn’t make it to get an engineering degree.
And this is not it, today let me tell that getting an engineering degree is easier then getting a degree in arts!!! And more than 80% of so called produced engineers today know nothing but how to mug a many years old notes of the same professor. Today in India the number of engineers produced by private colleges and universities are almost double of that of government institutions and for a matter of fact if we filter few of these private institutions as exception we will get a bunch of institutions from where getting a degree of engineering is even easier than buying some vegetables. All you need to have is money; the other entire thing is so easy starting from getting admitted through donation to getting results and getting placed too. (Damn!). Don’t be surprised as being one of student of such a university I am very much aware of this fact and as we got our friends all over the country enrolled in various such institutions, it’s not that hard to know about situation everywhere. Students can pass the exams by just mugging a limited number of question-answers. There is no need for anyone there to do any kind of research work to prepare an assignment; all they need to do is copy-paste. And another shocking fact is that if some student tries to do anything other than this, he gets a fail in that subject. If you are feeling I am writing something craps just go and ask any student from any of engineering college, private or government, it is same situation everywhere. There was a common one-liner among the students around few years back that “you throw a stone in air, and the guy it strikes would be an unemployed arts student” even now this one liner is as popular as then but only difference is that engineering has taken the place of arts in that (all thanks to our great system and these mushroomed private institutions). But it is not that these private institutes have not given any good student, the problem is the kind of confusion this image creates. When a student gets admitted in any of such university, he sees two options either he can continue that same time pass with study as he was doing before (as that’s been the main reason why he is there) or he does some hard work now to correct his earlier mistake. Keep in mind that in both the option he is being assured that he will get placed any how after four years! So let’s suppose he chooses to do hard work, he gets very good result, also do some interesting project on his own and comes out as the best student of the university. Everything so perfect till then, quite filmy but then he gets to see the reality that all his hard work is now of no use as everyone considers him same as the guy having all those back papers and all of them gets placement in some IT company finally or gets to do something else rather than his basic talent, apart from exceptions. Few months before our honorable minster Mr. Kapil Sibbal started some legal action after watching some report of donation in some colleges of south India to merge all these private institutions to nearby govt. university. I remember this made a lot of reports on front page for few days and what happened finally is that case went to court and now everything remains the same; even news papers stopped publishing any report on the issue.

This is not only the case of just engineering; things are almost similar in every sector, starting from science to any other professional course, better to say even worse for science graduates then engineering one, as they are really running out of option. I really wonder if this remains the situation, how we will be able to become superpower. Because a small single flaw In the chain makes whole chain useless and with this much big flaw in the system, things doesn’t seem falling in right place. The kind of educational system we have vaulted in the nation is a total theoretical one rather than being practical that could help the students to grow and do something innovative on their own. Finally if we really want to fulfill the dream of becoming superpower, our educational system need to be overhauled and we need to think very carefully about how we want to proceed and what we want to produce, just a robot or an innovative mind?

To be continued…

DATE: - 27/01/2011
BY: - PRAVEEN PARASAR

Friday, January 21, 2011

I Love To Write


                            I LOVE TO WRITE

I love to write!
No matter
About what,
Why, no reason!!!
Just to write
Something
To give myself
A company,
As I find
No one
To be with me,
As everyone
Is running out of
Time, and
I find myself
Alone, standing
In the crowd
And I see
No one but,
Pen and paper
With me, and,
Then I feel
To write
Actually
I just love to write!!!

                             PRAVEEN PARASAR
                             20/01/2011

Perhaps...

“Perhaps Love isn’t the answer Perhaps Love isn’t enough Perhaps Beyond the desperation To reconcile Beyond the attempts Of accept...